How are mamas doing? I did not know when I decided to become a parent at age 30 following a lifetime of saying I never want kids, that this would be one of the hardest decades of my life. This wasn’t meant to be this hard, was it? I am not even talking about the…
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Overcoming Mom Guilt
Why is it that moms are plagued by what we call “mom guilt”. This doesn’t seem to exist for dads. I feel like I cannot do anything without feeling nagging guilt about it. Is that societies voice in my head making me feel bad or is it my own? I cannot enjoy a break without…
Moms are Not Okay
Moms are suffering in silence. They are not okay. We are coddled like these precious vessels of life until we give birth and then we are birthed into a world that tramples us with nonstop pressure to be one thing or another to be seen as a good mother. No one asks how we are…
Women Can’t Have it All, Without Help!
Can we stop saying that women/moms can have it all?! If you live in the United States, it has become pretty impossible to have it all if you are not part of the 1%. We cannot become moms and keep full time employment without experiencing mom guilt, bias from society, and paying more than 75%…
In Honor of Mother’s Day
Here are some truths I have discovered in my 3.5 years of motherhood since the last time I wrote this after just having my first son. Motherhood means heating up your tea or coffee at least three times a day then either forgetting it in the microwave for half the day or giving up and…
Mothers Need Villages Not Judgements
This fall I gave birth to baby boy number 2. I had a mostly uneventful labor without drugs and welcomed a healthy 9 lb 22 inch boy. My heart, home, and life is now full of love. Time for myself is nil. They say when you have your second kid things don’t just get two…
There’s No Such Thing as a Perfect Mom!
Before I gave birth to my son, I had a list of things I would definitely do and not do as a mom. I admit I judged moms for letting their kids have too much screen time, too much sugar, too much toys, and I said I will absolutely not do that with my kid….
Ode to the Mom Bod!
I am currently on vacation in Hawaii with my 21 month old son and my husband. It’s the first time I’ve worn a bikini since I stopped breastfeeding my son in June. I look in the mirror and I don’t recognize this flabby belly, bulging thighs, and flat breasts staring back at me. This can’t…
Let’s Talk About Breastfeeding
When you are pregnant you hear over and over again from your doctors and women in your family that “breast is best!” They encourage you to nurse your child for one to two years and they teach you how to nurse so you are prepared when your baby needs their first meal. What they don’t…
The Unsung Heroes of COVID: Moms!
There are many amazing people that have been behind the scenes making everything work during this pandemic and not getting recognition. All of the essential farm workers and low wage workers to name a few. Something we need to talk about more though is the unforeseen burden that has fallen on the shoulders of so…
Moms: Let’s Stop Judging One Another!
Moms, let’s talk! We need to once and for all agree to stop judging one another. It is hard enough being a mom, we don’t need to also deal with the sneers and grumbles of other moms judging us. We are all doing our best and we need to support each other. I’ll admit that…
Being a Mom is the Hardest Job I’ve Ever Had
In 2013, my sister and I worked on a cattle ranch in the Australian Outback. Our employers were cruel, verbally abusive, and unforgiving. I felt like Cinderella. We scrubbed floors, dusted rafters, and shoveled cow shit. Everything we did was scrutinized and we were oftentimes told to redo jobs that weren’t up to their standards….
Finding My Mom Tribe
I’ve had many tribes throughout my adult life. Women need tribes to feel comfort, love, a safe place to bitch and moan over wine, and someone to capture your dumbest moments on camera. Some women maintain the exact same tribe their whole lives if they never move away from home. Others, like me, have different…
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