Here are some truths I have discovered in my 3.5 years of motherhood since the last time I wrote this after just having my first son. Motherhood means heating up your tea or coffee at least three times a day then either forgetting it in the microwave for half the day or giving up and…
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Never Enough Time!
There’s never enough time in life for all the things I want to do. Ever since we turned the clocks forward for Daylight savings time, I have been cursing the fact that we lost another hour. I already feel like I am strapped for time and you want to steal another precious hour from me….
Not Drowning, but Treading Water
I’m not drowning, but I’m treading water. I’m not failing, but I’m barely succeeding. I’m not poor, but I’m just paying my bills. I’m not rich, but I’m grateful for all that we do have including a home, food, a car, etc. I’m not a gourmet chef, but I’m feeding my family (sometimes chicken nuggets…
Motherhood: I love it and I hate it
This goes out to all the moms who didn’t grow up their whole life wanting to be a mom. This is for the moms who decided much later in life to have kids or it was a surprise. The women who laid up at night while pregnant scared of what kind of mom they would…
Mothers Need Villages Not Judgements
This fall I gave birth to baby boy number 2. I had a mostly uneventful labor without drugs and welcomed a healthy 9 lb 22 inch boy. My heart, home, and life is now full of love. Time for myself is nil. They say when you have your second kid things don’t just get two…
Moms need a break
This summer has been one of the hardest I’ve ever experienced. Of course, I recognize that there are moms out there dealing with way worse and I want to acknowledge them now, because mama you are a warrior woman who has way too much on your plate. I, personally, am now 32 weeks pregnant with…
I Am Worthy!
Last night I couldn’t sleep again for what feels like the umpteeth time. In my anxiety fueled insomnia, I attempted to repeat a mantra to myself. It was simply, “I am worthy!” I am worthy of praise. I am worthy of the love of others and of self love. I am worthy of that raise….
Women Can’t Win
The deck has always been stacked against us. Women, no matter how hard we try, will always fail in societies eyes. I don’t know if it goes way back to the idea that Eve ate the apple or started before the bible was written, but women can’t win. Society is designed in such a way…
There’s No Such Thing as a Perfect Mom!
Before I gave birth to my son, I had a list of things I would definitely do and not do as a mom. I admit I judged moms for letting their kids have too much screen time, too much sugar, too much toys, and I said I will absolutely not do that with my kid….
Ode to the Mom Bod!
I am currently on vacation in Hawaii with my 21 month old son and my husband. It’s the first time I’ve worn a bikini since I stopped breastfeeding my son in June. I look in the mirror and I don’t recognize this flabby belly, bulging thighs, and flat breasts staring back at me. This can’t…
Let’s Talk About Breastfeeding
When you are pregnant you hear over and over again from your doctors and women in your family that “breast is best!” They encourage you to nurse your child for one to two years and they teach you how to nurse so you are prepared when your baby needs their first meal. What they don’t…
The Unsung Heroes of COVID: Moms!
There are many amazing people that have been behind the scenes making everything work during this pandemic and not getting recognition. All of the essential farm workers and low wage workers to name a few. Something we need to talk about more though is the unforeseen burden that has fallen on the shoulders of so…
Put Your Mask on First Mama
If you have flown on an airplane, you’ve most likely heard the Flight Attendant say during the safety procedures that parents need to put their mask on first before putting on their child’s. The reason they say this is because you’re no good to your child if you pass out from lack of oxygen. So,…
Dear Parents Raising Boys
Dear Parents Raising Boys, I’m writing you this letter, because our actions over the next 18 years of our son’s lives are pivotal to the future of this country. It is important that both parents take responsibility for the actions of their son. How we and society shape them will impact how we move forward…
I See You Mama…
I’m back! Been writing this post in my head for a few weeks, but as always I’ve had no time to write. I recently did something very out of character for me though. I decided to put myself first and take some extra time off of work for self care during this nutty time of…
Moms: Let’s Stop Judging One Another!
Moms, let’s talk! We need to once and for all agree to stop judging one another. It is hard enough being a mom, we don’t need to also deal with the sneers and grumbles of other moms judging us. We are all doing our best and we need to support each other. I’ll admit that…
Motherhood is…
After almost a year of postpartum motherhood, I’ve realized a few things about this journey that I never knew until I was living in it. I honestly never wanted to be a mother. The moment I discovered where children came from, I said nah, not for me! I wasn’t born thinking my life’s destiny was…
Self Care for Mamas
Are you a new mom? Are you struggling to find time to take care of yourself let alone eat and shower when you need to? I know I am. I can barely keep up with eating enough to sustain myself while breastfeeding my son and now all my clothes are hanging off of me. Everyone…
Sifting Through Too Much Parenting Advice
When you become a parent for the first time, you get very used to receiving unsolicited advice. Everyone has their theories on the best parenting. In some ways there’s no right way to parent, but there are definitely some better ways. Unfortunately, no one can agree on what is the best way. I am very…
Postpartum Denial: Accepting You’re Struggling and It’s Okay
When we learned about Postpartum Depression and Anxiety at the Mom Expo last summer, I thought to myself, not me! I convinced myself that I was immune to this scary side effect of giving birth. About 50 to 75% of women experience the baby blues for the first six weeks after birth, 15% of those…
Being a Mom is the Hardest Job I’ve Ever Had
In 2013, my sister and I worked on a cattle ranch in the Australian Outback. Our employers were cruel, verbally abusive, and unforgiving. I felt like Cinderella. We scrubbed floors, dusted rafters, and shoveled cow shit. Everything we did was scrutinized and we were oftentimes told to redo jobs that weren’t up to their standards….
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